More about Flourishment

This set of techniques is a technology, not an equation. I do not have a map that works for everyone. I do not have a plan ahead of time. We are exploring you, and you are in the driver’s seat. I don’t know where you want or need to go; I don’t have an agenda for what is “right.”

What I can do is reveal the dynamics involved in any situation you bring for us, in a way that creates more space for you to get the results you want when you act.

The approach has been described as “the closest thing to ayahuasca you can get without medicine.” Like medicine work, what we do together is often revelatory. What you do with that is up to you. I live by the tenet that awareness is enough; so I strive only to show you things which, once seen, will inevitably change your life.

With these techniques, I have helped clients see how subtle downstream effects of their good intentions hold their own dynamics in place, and have helped them gain the freedom to change those dynamics, across topics including

  • communication (with colleagues, family, lovers, etc.)

  • stuckness / procrastination

  • critical or negative thoughts

  • anxious-avoidant patterns in professional and romantic relationships

  • feeling unseen, unappreciated, or alone

  • feeling frustrated, obligated, or resentful in any kind of relationship

  • acting out of integrity with how they would like to be

  • living with trauma patterns

  • limiting themselves or not going for what they really want

My techniques can also help you

  • clarify and pursue your goals

  • identify behaviors and thoughts that slow you down or work against you—and help you make them work for you

  • find balance (work-life, etc)

  • see the long-term effects of your current ways of relating

  • become more active / create healthy habits that actually stick

The one thing this approach asks of you is that you be courageous in facing yourself.

I only accept new coaching clients in packages. The packages I have available currently:

TRANSFORM:

Year-long deep dive program. Discover and fundamentally shift the patterns affecting your experience and behavior that are not optimal for you.

22 sessions + availability to book more at cost. Option to go month-to-month at close of program.

Regular cost: $12,000 for the year

DISCOVER:

10 sessions, weekly or bi-weekly. Discover blind spots and the deep emotional patterns behind your non-optimal behaviors, and learn to create new pathways for more deeply aligned action moving forward.

This is a nice way to get a taste of what this kind of relationship can be like.

Option to roll into a year-long program.

Regular cost: $6500

This type of coaching relationship changes lives. It can transform the fundamental patterns from which all else flows.

That kind of work requires a full commitment on both sides, as well as a trusting relationship.

I know that my skills find the most purchase in this world when funneled into a few highly committed relationships per year.

That said, I also care deeply about accessibility. When my own needs are being met, I am happy to offer sliding-scale packages. If you want access to this kind of work, please reach out.

“Working with Alexa is both remarkably productive and enjoyable. She brought a profoundly curious and perceptive energy to our call and managed to distill a major sticking point in my life into a series of questions that could be examined somatically and methodically. After our collaborative exploration I left with a much greater sense of ease and clarity.” -HW

What my clients say

“I definitely did not expect this kind of conversation [given the topics I brought], but it has been remarkably helpful.” -SS

“Just the quality of your presence alone is better than probably 99% of therapists, and your pointers are extremely insightful.” -BB

“I love our calls so much. I see life differently every time.” -NL

“Thank you for pushing all the right buttons… Thank you for never hesitating to call me into deeper integrity with your unrelenting, loving fierceness.” -BK

“I consider myself to be a pretty introspective person, but these conversations are full of lightbulb moments like, Wow. I have never thought that before. And now it is just undeniably true.” -TA

“I literally can’t believe how powerful this is. And how fast the shifts happen for me.” -CA

“I get more out of talking to you for an hour than I get from talking to my therapist for months.” -KG

FAQs

What does a normal engagement look like?

For individuals, I prefer that they sign up for packages of at least 6 sessions, which we schedule ahead of time. After those 6 sessions are complete, we can discuss how we want to proceed.

For couples (and polycules of various shapes), I will set up a plan according to the needs of the group, usually involving alternating sessions between individuals and the group, but in all cases I prefer to see each individual separately at least once.

For executives and leaders, I begin each engagement with 1 - 2 sessions with the client, then conduct 360 interviews with 3 - 6 people close to you before our next session. These engagements begin with a package of at least 6 sessions with the client, in addition to the 360 interviews.

If this is a technology of connection, why don’t you teach others the techniques?

I like to think that people do learn from each session, but you’re right, I am not teaching classes. This is an experiential offering at this time. And one of the reasons for that is that in the not-too-distant past, I had a devotee who was pretty sure that this was the most important thing that anyone could do, and who really wanted to document all the parts and teach it to as many people as possible. To be honest, I was flattered. And then I watched him weaponize the tools, try to get people to see things his way. It was painful and very grounding. I will be much more careful moving forward.

Do you take pro bono or sliding scale clients?

Yes I do, but I already have several. If money is an issue, please reach out and let us discuss options.

But this is so weird, who are your clients?

That’s true, what I’m doing is unusual. Almost all of my clients come through personal referrals. By the same token, I really appreciate referrals. If somehow you have found yourself here without a glowing review from a friend or co-worker to go on, the only way for you to find out more is to give it a try.

That said, I have clients of all kinds. I love working with professionals in fields I care about, as I think I make people much more effective at their work. I love working with people who are struggling to be in their integrity and authenticity at the same time in their relationships, and I have 20 years of first-hand experience practicing polyamory. I love working with people who want to open up more, or explore somatic work. There is literally nothing I have found that I can’t work with, if the client is courageous enough to face whatever comes.